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Re: Beauty is in the eye
« Reply #15 on: August 20, 2007, 10:56:11 AM »

My own experience: I have always had blonde hair and then when I was about 23 I decided to dye my hair brown. The first night out at our usual hang out the difference was stifling. I'm by no means a 10 but normally I get a reaction from guys, especially at the bar. Well the night I went out with my brown hair, nothing! No body struck up conversation with me, nobody offered to buy me a drink. I know that sounds terrible but I had been hanging out at this bar for 5 months at this point. Every time I went there I met at least one new person and had at least one drink bought for me.  I waited a week and dyed it back to my natural hair color. I hated being ignored.

I think we're a society that judge’s people based on their looks at first. It's hard not to. But like another poster mentioned in you give someone a chance they usually end up being pretty cool. All you can do is your part and not judge people by their looks. When you do that you set an example for those around you and eventually maybe everyone won't be so superficial.
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Re: Beauty is in the eye
« Reply #16 on: August 20, 2007, 11:26:49 AM »

Ever since I was about 15 I have had this whole thing figured out.

See, my stepfather was evil. He brought home porno mags for me from the time I was 8. He would sit and ask me how it made me feel and so on... more on that some other time. Any way, beauty is not what we see, it is what we are taught.

I am raising my kids to find beauty in people by their personality. Of course a physical attraction may be there, but this will hopefully be caused by the true chemistry involved with the situation. My son is starting to see this girl, and they have ALOT in common. They talk together all the time, and he goes to her church to hang out with her sometimes. Even with my "12 year old" glasses on, I don't see her as a "pretty girl" (remember my training), but my son adores her.

The concept of pretty is brought on by tv and magazines too, but pretty is just the opposite of ugly. If we raised our kids pointing at all of the models and calling them ugly, while pointing out the "average" and calling them pretty, in one generation the whole pattern would change.

The reason I find 5'10" blondes with big boobs, tigh beehinds and 5" high heels HOT is because my brain was washed with those images for years. If those were BBW magazines, I think the results would reflect the desire for the BBW type woman as "hot babes".

Beauty is not in the eye of the beholder, it is in the self esteem of each of us. We are beutiful when we love, care, respect, and share. Yes, I am beautiful, all 6'3" 420 lbs of me, and there is no one that can call me ugly, except an ugly person.

Ugly is ugly.
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Re: Beauty is in the eye
« Reply #17 on: August 20, 2007, 12:53:23 PM »

The reason I find 5'10" blondes with big boobs, tigh beehinds and 5" high heels HOT is because my brain was washed with those images for years.
Umm no sir, that is not why.
It's because your a hetero male!
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Re: Beauty is in the eye
« Reply #18 on: August 20, 2007, 01:27:31 PM »

The first thing we notice about a person is their physical look. Given that and setting aside race altogether, do you judge them accordingly?  Do you believe (or have you had such an experience) that people that are attractive are treated differently (better) just because they are attractive and the same for those that arent attractive, do you find that they are not treated as well as their counterparts???

Think before you respond...a true answer rather than the (pat) politically correct thing to say.

I personally think that attractive people can be treated differently, but it depends.  I personally don't treat people differently based on looks, but from personal experience, know it happens.  I am female, blonde, light eyes, cute (well, my husband says so anyway).  I have never gotten a ticket, and have been pulled over a LOT of times.  The only ticket I have received is from a female cop, which would explain it, LOL.  Men will stop to hold doors open for me almost every time, and I can get into clubs and the like without a wait in line.  This may have more to do with being female v being attractive. 

I don't care though if I get special treatment, as I am also discrminated against in my career field for the exact same reasons.
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Re: Beauty is in the eye
« Reply #19 on: August 20, 2007, 01:51:59 PM »

The reason I find 5'10" blondes with big boobs, tigh beehinds and 5" high heels HOT is because my brain was washed with those images for years.
Umm no sir, that is not why.
It's because your a hetero male!

Good answer Farmer.   The 'sex drive' is why we're all here.   ;)
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Re: Beauty is in the eye
« Reply #20 on: August 20, 2007, 02:37:22 PM »

Sex drive is different.

What you are attracted to is relative to your liking, not genetics.

Sex drive is genetics, hormones, and a splash of attraction.

Being a hetero-male doesn't mean you like the blonde hair, big boobs and 5" heels.

Those things are learned to like. Personal tastes are subjective to the individual thus - "personal tastes".

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Re: Beauty is in the eye
« Reply #21 on: August 20, 2007, 03:23:15 PM »

I'd say sometimes people are treated differently due to their appearance.  My wife has been pulled over 6 times and has 1 ticket.  I've been pulled over three times and have two tickets (I'm butt ugly!!)
Once I was with her when made a left in front of a cop who had to slam on his brakes to not hit us.  He pulled us over, asked if she was suicidal, laughed a little, and let us go without further questioning.  I'm pretty sure if I'd been driving, I would have gotten the cavity search (at least I'd like to think so!) ;)
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Re: Beauty is in the eye
« Reply #22 on: August 20, 2007, 03:29:29 PM »

Beauty fades.  One's inner beauty is lifelong.
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Re: Beauty is in the eye
« Reply #23 on: August 20, 2007, 03:38:03 PM »

There are studies that show that people who are overweight make less than people who are considered thin, fit, etc. I do believe there is a prejudice with weight.

I do think society and television has a lot to do with what we see as pretty. Way back in history women who had great "breeding hips" were seen as beautiful. The women with more skin were seen as healthy and great child bearers. So, our perception has changed.

Here is something to think about though... the women who are now models... they look sickly to me. Some look like they are dying of aids or addicted to some drug that makes them unable to eat. Furthermore, if you really look...most of them look like they have boy bodies...Why are we finding women who have NO breasts no shape, no hips, no nothing as sexy? These are our supermodels... ugh. We find the bones sticking out of the chest sexy??

I love Maya Angelo's poem Phenominal woman...

Pretty Women wonder where my secret lies
I'm not cute or built to suit a model's fashion size
But when I start to tell them
They think I'm telling lies.
I say
It's in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips
The stride of my steps
The curl of my lips.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally
Phenomenal woman
That's me .

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please
And to a man
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees
Then they swarm around me
A hive of honey bees.
I say
It's the fire in my eyes
And the flash of my teeth
The swing of my waist
And the Joy in my feet.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally
Phenomenal woman
That's me.
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me
They try so much
But they can't touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can't see.
I say
It's in the arch of my back
The sun of my smile
The ride of my breasts
The grace of my style.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally
Phenomenal woman
That's me

. Now you understand
Just why my head's not bowed
I don't shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say It's in the click of my heels
The bend of my hair
The palm of my hand
The need for my care.
'Cause I'm a woman
Phenomenally
Phenomenal woman
That's me.

Anyhow, I think she is a wonderful poet and beautiful woman. :)

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Re: Beauty is in the eye
« Reply #24 on: August 20, 2007, 10:06:13 PM »

Uncle Rico,
you crack me up
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